Marriage is supposed to be a happy union of love between two people. However, for years, marriage has started to become much more centered around the wedding itself than the actual union of love.
People are starting to care much more about how much they’re spending on things like rings, caterers, flowers, and the whole reception. Couples are starting to feel pressured to keep up with other couples as if marriage was a competition. And if you can’t keep up, you get shamed.
Ariel McRae experienced this first-hand when she and her fiancé went to purchase engagement rings. Apparently, while Ariel and her partner, Quinn, were buying a matching set of engagement rings, a saleswoman made a rude comment about the rings.
Ariel explains that she and her husband don’t have much. They barely scrape by with their bills and expenses. But they’re okay with that because they have each other. Ariel and Quinn knew they wanted to be together and they didn’t want to wait until they someday saved up enough money for more expensive wedding props.
So, Quinn saved up just enough money – $130 to be exact – to buy Ariel a matching set of engagement rings. Ariel explains that her rings are sterling silver and cubic zirconia, but she’s completely happy with them. She loves Quinn and wanted to be married to him. Diamonds and gold didn’t matter.
The saleswoman didn’t realize that Ariel’s rings were engagement rings. So, she ignorantly stated, “Y’all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic.” Ariel shares that her husband’s face immediately fell in shame when the woman scoffed at the rings.
The saleswoman didn’t know the couple’s story nor the love they have for each other. She didn’t know that Quinn asked Ariel multiple times if she was okay with the inexpensive rings.
Ariel admits that her former self would have handled the situation much differently. Instead, maturity allowed her to explain to the woman, “It isn’t the ring that matters, it is the love that goes into buying one that matters.”
Then, Ariel decided to speak out on Facebook and address the idea that marriage and wedding rings need to be expensive and competitive. She states, “When did our nation fall so far to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000+ jewelry and makes a public decree of his affection with said flashy ring?”
The young woman admits that expensive rings can be nice and she explains that she’s not trying to knock anyone else’s engagement experience. However, she rightfully asks the world, “Why do material possessions equate love?” Ariel admits that she would have married Quinn even if he had bought her a twenty-five cent ring.
However, her husband was still shaken by the idea that Ariel could not want to marry him if the ring was too cheap. Ariel shares, “He was afraid that the love I have for him would pale because he couldn’t afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad.”
Regardless of what the world thinks, Ariel and Quinn are happy. Ariel explains that the couple got married in a courthouse – with Ariel’s inexpensive rings – and she is happier than she could have ever imagined. Quinn is her best friend and the love of her life. The couple is happy together, living high above any judgement or negativity.
All images credit to Ariel Desiree McRae / Facebook.